I think it is ok to "shelter" the kids from their MLCer choices and life I have also took on the full financial load to raise 2 kids and one in college I am grateful that I could do it , but God has provided for all our financial needs I think my kids had not had to move or change to much of their lives everything stayed the same except their Dad was no longer present NO contact for many years..he M OW and moved out of state I think that part has been good for them
So I guess Im saying no need to try to prove or teach anyone anything Try to provide as best you can community colleges are good also my D has part time jobs ,,that also helps pay for her expenses at college
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow