He's eating his cake! This is driving me crazy at times. Welcome to my rollercoaster.
A bit of history: Moved out last week. Has set up room for D16. Every morning and most afternoons he is able to drive over and p/u D for school. I've already left for work.
Then the texts: what are your dinner plans? Would you like to meet us for dinner? etc
Comes into the house on the weekend to pick up D. Greets me with a smile, warm hug, kiss on cheek. *Hadn't seen him since he moved out days before*
Comes over a few days later after dropping off D, checks out the broken vacuum cleaner, goes over bills. Again hug hello and goodbye.
Texts me from work to say he is on overtime. Vents frustrations with co-workers.
Asks D to stay over this weekend.
Throughout all this, I am being dim. I respond to texts minimally, rarely initiate. I am supportive when he is talking about his feelings with work, daughter etc. I ask D if she would like me to join them for meals; she's responding yes.
So, it's been a week. He has seen her and stayed part of her routine the whole time. He is friendly and engaging. Then he works and I know it's his favorite distraction technique. He's having his cake. He sleeps in his new place.
D16 wants him to realize that he will be lonely without us around. She has decided not to stay over this weekend. Essentially it is his first night alone. She thinks maybe he should sit and think. I know he will be distracting himself with video games, tv and making plans with the one buddy he sees socially.
