Originally Posted By: AU Bob
Hi Mr Bond
Im just wonder what rubbish she had told these people. I bet she has only told them half trueths i bet there was no mention of the OM . Just how bad i was!


I'm pretty sure my H is doing this as well.

To make things worse, we also work in the same industry. And because of who he is, I'm known as 'his wife'.

I'm struggling with this one. I desperately want to set the record straight and tell it like it is.

The thing that stops me is that I think I would lose some of my dignity. And also, where would it stop? I would probably have to start telling as many people as possible, and then updating them on how it is all unfolding.

That's actually all time and energy I could be using to help me become a stronger and better person. And also shore up my own boundaries.

I don't want to use those (at the moment) very limited resources of time and energy to essentially pursue a course of action that would take the focus away from my own journey.

Don't know if that makes any sense?


Me: 48, XH: 42
T: 18 years, M: 15 years

EA/PA 1: 6/2012
EA/PA 2: from autumn 2012-present

BD: 5/2013
ILYBNILWY BD & left: 10/2015

OW conceived: 8/2016
Born: 4/2017

H filed: 7/2017
D final: 28/12/2017