Focus, I love what you did with your FB profile picture. I am going to do that too. I am hoping he isn't following the "script" that others have warned you about, but it seems like its in your best interest to be prepared for that.
Thank you! I'm still getting comments about it from people at work...he he he!
With a day's distance, I reckon he is following the script.
So, I think what I will do (as far as he is concerned) is a mix of ignoring him and playing naive. As in, if I were to answer that message (which I'm not) I would say 'no. I'm doing grand, thank you!'. And leave it at that.
I think the consequences of that line of action is that he'll feel I'm not behaving like he would have hoped I would, and that I've slipped beyond his control? I reckon he might get really frustrated and pretty angry with me?
But what effect would all of this have on his R with OW? Will it make it stronger because it's them against the horrible W? Or will she eventually get fed up with him ranting about me to her?
I know all of this is speculation really and nobody can say what is going to happen. But I'm feeling a bit lost at the moment.
Originally Posted By: pho
I am starting a job search, its a bit overwhelming, but reading how your job has helped you encourages me.
Thank you. My part time job is very, very undemanding, but it's a real blessing at the moment. It gives me a little focus, gets me out of the house (and I have to make an effort to look presentable too, obviously) and is sociable.
Good luck with your search! And keep me posted
Originally Posted By: pho
Of course you don't feel resilient, but you are only 1 month post- BD and you are functioning, working, talking to a counselor, you are miles ahead of many people so early into their situation. It takes a long time to start to feel normal again, heck, I am 9 or 10 months in (depending on what I count as BD) and I just broke down crying in the Target parking lot a half an hour ago.
Hang in there, you are doing well.
Thank you.
Ended up having a really nice time at work last night. And there was an unexpected social event after, which I went along to for an hour and really enjoyed. I work with some pretty cool people.
