Gday AU Bob, Have read your sitch and it does resemble something like mine, regards to age, years married etc. Except my wife left for another woman. If you ever need to chat hopefully you are close. I am in North Brisbane area. You are heading in the right direction with the work you are doing on yourself. As mentioned above, you do need to choose whether you are working towards reconciliation or moving on. They will then determine your approach to dating or closeness to another person. I get that, it was one of the biggest things I missed: holding hands, cuddling or simply touching.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.