I've been lurking on this and don't have much valuable to add except to agree with everyone who supports your filing necessary papers for child support and such. If H never comes back you will have to be the primary decision maker anyway and I think that only helps to strengthen you. We have a tendency to want to hedge our decisions against the effect we fear or hope it will have on the WAS. But that's just co-dependency and manipulation or attempt to control in my book.
I think you did the right thing. Do what's right and best for you and the kids. The H can change his mind any time he wants to. But you have to protect yours and the kids' present and future.
