HI Lois

I have attended meeting for many years
They are very helpful to detach and let go
a lot of friendship there and support

You set some good firm boundaries and you are right
we can't FIX them ..
the solution is there,,they can see it ,but many don't want to get sober and clean
they will get clean when they hit their bottom

It is impossible to have a relationship with an active addict
It is better to understand the disease so you can protect yourself and teach your kids
Like your situation, my XH was also sober for many years..I believe her relapsed when he hit MLC or who knows what came first


married 14 years
H 42
bomb 2/07 IDLYA
D final 3 /09
M ow D ow