Wayward Wife, my addiction, advice needed

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Update time.

Counselor/pastor had us take a marriage assessment. We did an activity with him on Sunday night, and we were to comment on how our spouse reacted during the activity, and give ratings. According to our aggregate score, the marriage is very likely salvageable. It wasn't a Christian assessment, more based on current trends in marriage counseling circles. So... the wife says 'she hates to admit' that it is encouraging, but is still confused and, from what I can tell, unwilling to drop the EA with the OM via phone.

She's got training in Chicago in two weeks, where her likelihood to meet up with him is very high. She's staying overnight, and he knows where she's staying.

Ugh. Living in limbo is hard. But, I guess living on my own would be hard, too. How long is too long to wait for her to 'figure it out'? Do I let her blow it by meeting up with OM, and then drop the hammer?