I agree Ghost, it is very sad. It is heartbreaking.
Ghost, your W is planning to leave after the holidays, right? My H is leaving in Jan. So here is a conversation I can see us having in, maybe not January, but lets say February.
Ghost "I cannot believe how much I feared being alone, this is awesome! I don't have to watch W get all dressed up to go out at night, I feel so free, I can practice my new dance moves in the living room all night long in my knickers (see I am trying for the British word here) without a care in the world. "
Pho "I understand Ghost! I had friends over last night and we laughed so hard, I just realized that I can't laugh in H's presence because he thinks my jokes are stupid, and also I realized that I am sleeping so much better because I am not in a constant state of sexual frustration wondering when if ever he will put out. Out of sight, out of mind! And, even better, I have a hot new boyfriend ..... (OK wipe out that last part)."
Ghost, meet me back on this forum in a few months and see if I am right. We might be surprised at how much less stressful it is without our waywards underfoot calling us abusers.
