Lou, For the moment, you are going to have to do things that make sense to you, i.e., your job, moving, etc. Your h has a lot of growing up to do and yes, those demons are starting to unfold for him...but it takes a very long time for them to heal.
The best thing you can do for the both of you is to live your life to the fullest. He is aware that he's got a ways to go, so leave the door ajar and plan things for you and that make you happy along the way. When the time is right, he will run and catch up w/you. Okay?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
