Julie, keep trying. Like you said to me the other day. It seems so straight forward reading someone else's sitch. After reading what you just posted it seems like If you had said those words to H it would not be too late, hope would not be lost. I know it goes against the DB rules but sometimes I get the overwhelming urge to just say it! Say the truth the simple truth of what you are feeling and what you want/hope for
Jpeg and Julie, this is what I did this weekend. And my H has been making so many signs of progress, AND he is still here and still going to MC. I told him I want nothing more than reconciliation. It went VERY VERY badly. I would not recommend this. If he was still the pre-BD H then yes, but trust me, don't do it. Every time I stray from DB it seems in the moment to make perfect sense but then it backfires and I regret it.
Julie, good for you for filing for child support. I also think a mediator is not a bad idea, just find one that you like.
