Ktfo - I know the feeling, it is mental anguish and torture. I haven't read your whole story but sounds like your Wnis still with you and wants to work on marriage? Be thankful for that. I had a horrible night thinking of H crawling into bed with OW (which is what he did) not only has my H slept with OW, he chose her and left me behind, that is the ultimate form of rejection
I couldn't imagine what I'm dealing with let alone what you are having to go through! My heart goes out to you Jpeg! She f'd up, and new it and ended it... but I'm dealing with the WHY? If I was such an amazing husband etc then why? I feel good from time to time and feel almost normal at times.. but then it creeps back in. I do at times wish she would have just ended it before she did, but at the same time I can't imagine loving another woman as much as I love her. LOL It's amazing this place we all are in.
If you ever need to beat someone up, just let me know! I'd lend an ear if you need it!!