Let her be happy then, let her pursue what she thinks will fix all her problems. She's going to do it one way or another anyway, nothing you can do about it in the long run other than keep her focus on you more so she can't see herself.
The best you can do is leave her to live her own life and learn you weren't the problem. Sometimes the only way they learn that is by trial and error. They eventually destroy everything in their path but not much you can do but protect yourself anf the kids. It [censored], but this is how it is.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
