The answer is yes. You can get away from the craziness even with kids involved but you have decide that then make it happen.
And yes to your other question. It's normal to feel whether it's fair to bring someone into your life.....
Think of it this way. It's now your life, how you chose to make it. If you can set the boundaries for yourself then you can make this new life how you want to live it.
Just so you know, it took me a while too. It's not an overnight process but a gradual "living the answers" as you feel out a whole new life.
I love the way you are a stand up guy for your daughters. That makes me know you will be alright with what you choose going forward.
