Lost Hope (5)

[Painter]

Julie, he was trying to convince you to drop your L. It's all about the money. That's why he stayed calm but that you felt the underlying threats. It's very clear to see from the outside.

When H was in the middle of his A, he hired a L behind my back and we hadn't even agreed to separate. He tried to find a legal way to shut me out of the marital home. He told me I had no rights to our marital home (not true). He tried to get me to sign over the titles to our vehicles. Basically, he went from being a generous, caring person to an enemy who was at war with me without me knowing. I asked him how he could do all of this, and he said 'I had to protect myself'.

I can't imagine that you will have to account for all your expenses and how you spend money. From almost all cases I've seen, there will be a comparison of income and a support formula that is used to decide support obligation of each party, then the difference will be paid to the one who makes less and has custody.