Striving to keep the peace within

[ciluzen]

I want to add to my post above...yes I am furious with H, with his family, with his genes, with whatever brought this madness on that has affected so many people...me, my son, our families and friends, co-workers, so many...

I also am aware that I am pretty sure this isn't easy on H either. I am not happy about splitting Thanksgiving but it's my choice to do this as it feels the right thing to do right now, and I will go through this with compassion and respect for H. I will stay friendly and wish him a nice day. I will continue to stand firm on my personal boundaries while keeping the door open and light on. I still love my H and I hope he knows I am still here for him.

I know many of us here will have struggles this week. Let's keep our hearts open and chins up, stay strong and try to remember that our spouse is in crisis. Who knows where we may be this time next year. Let's continue learning and living.

Many hugs to you all

This is great, MLeigh. I'm sure many of us are thankful for this very healthy perspective on our spouse's MLC crisis. We all go through anger,sadness, confusion, and pain. But its nice to be reminded that this is a painful and confusing process for them, as well, and we love them still.

I'll take those hugs, (along with your words of wisdom) if you don't mind, and send many more back to you! Enjoy this new version of your holidays!