I can only validate your heartbreak Pho. I'm like you, and I don't know how to deal with it. I guess time is really a healer. If you look back at the beginning of DB, are you still the same person. My IC told me that affair provokes devastation in our heart, so it might take a while before it goes away. I love my H very much, but he isn't showing any sign of coming back, so I have to tell myself that i will always love him, it's not reciprocal and that there is someone out there for me!