I know dealing with A is unbelievably emotional. There is no excuse for it, none. But there are many contributing factors for it. When you are able to (hopefully soon) focus on the contributing factors and drop the thoughts of the A. All of them. You can do it if you try very hard.
You will be better for it. Not your M, not your S, you will be better for it.
I absolutely acknowledge there were contributing factors, which is why I can even think about going forward with the marriage. And looking back I see the signs of my wife's unhappiness that I missed. We have tried addressing these factors, but it feels as if my wife is doing it half-heartedly. Like she wants to see where it goes, but doesn't want to give up on option B - the OM. And it doesn't help that she doesn't believe my changes are here to last.
Honestly, I just want her to drop the walls she's built (her words) enough to give us a real chance. It hasn't happened yet and I have no idea what to do other than to show consistent actions.... Any thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated
Me-38 W-38; T-15 M-12; S10 and S6 BD - July 2016; EA confirmed; confronted Aug 2015 EA dissolved 12/2016
Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option - Maya Angelou
