As far as the boundary....will she respect it. Sure the H needs to have this boundary and maintain this boundary but will she respect the boundary when stated. Wouldn't the boundary carry more weight if reinforced by the Pastor?
How in the world could a Pastor enforce a boundary for the H? Every person has to enforce their own boundaries.
My opinion about talking to OM over the phone instead of sending a letter is that the letter prevents the addictive trigger. Plus, he can't interrupt her, get her distracted in what to say, argue, or convince that things will work. If she hears his voice, she will not have the emotional fortitude to convince him the A is over. She's addicted, and she naturally craves OM. The WW's I have read about do not want to really end the A. They do it b/c the H will not tolerate it, and they have to choose between their M and their OM.
Last edited by sandi2; 11/23/1509:30 PM.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
