I did the friend thing while thinking that we were working on us. I was wrong,
My W is wanting the same thing and for the longest I did the same thing you did. Originally she said that she wanted us to work on getting back our friendship to the way it was in dating and early marriage. Guess what? Seems that never went away. We have got that down - and when the MC noted that to her, she hemmed and hawed around it and kind of deflected it. When she stated about being friends "if" we divorce, thats when I hinted that wasn't going to happen. Wide eyed there...
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I still want us together, it's up to her.
Same here. When my W leaves for her new assignment, she talks of using that time to figure us out. But in reality, how will she be able to figure us out if she never gives us a chance to do stuff and try?
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He's a great kid, and I told them this was not their fault. We still love them.
Sounds like it! But, the sad thing is, no matter how hard we try to press that into them, they will always assume responsibility. Always. Especially if they are young.
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W and I hanging out together was giving the boys false hope as much as it was me. I was afraid of that, but didn't want to rock the boat. Well, it's capsized now.
I know the feeling. We live in the same house and do stuff together for the kids. They think we are one big happy family. They are getting ready to be faced with her leaving for her new station. And then there is the problem of us. The kids don't know. I have a feeling she will drop that bomb in a month or two.
Keep your chin up!
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
