Now the way I see it is if over the last 17 years I had spent every evening with her and did not give her space to breath and have her own time who is to say that we would not have seporated after 5 years of marriage or 10 years and she would have been saying to me I decided I wanted to separate because I was spending too much time with her and did not ever let her have freedom I was crowding her who knows
Who knows ....people make decisions for many reasons and they will find and make excuses like most people in our situation they talk in absolute negatives and remember everything as being bad just today my W made the decision to leave our toddler with our daughters boyfriend in our house whilst she took our older child out
This is the easiest answer ever!
It is because, wait for it, because they have to find justification everywhere they can!!! To justify their bad behavior, first of all to themselves. They convince themselves that they really had no other choice, but to stray...
I have heard all sort of excuses, from the one you mentioned, to the likes of:
- you were never there, - you were smothering me, - you always chooses blue, - your hair is too long, - you snore to loud, - your cat has gas (yes, I have actually heard that one), - and many, many more, all designed to give them an excuse for their bad behavior.
Nuts, totally nuts...
This seems to be a common issue. Why do they just only want to concentrate on the bad and not the good?
