First - sorry your idiot WH can't see life before his nose. No need to say that he is the one losing life, but it is his own business and you have no control over his poor life choices.
Just would like to add, that in the most outrageous moments growing up with a father that would drink, scream, and put a lot of fear on people around him, I was the one to stand. Never back down to him, even knowing that he could just bust a big punch on my face.
This kind of people love (for some horrible reasons) get some level of pleasure once they can realize that the other person had "Fear". Do not back down to this Jerk. I know it is very hard for most people to stand up to the oppressor, but it is necessary.
I think you are doing the right thing, but be aware at all times, be prepare at all times. Coming from a country of so much violence, some of us women learned to have a spray in their purses. That won't kill the bastard, but will give you time to run, or at least kick him there.
Maybe you don't like this kind of stuff, but I did Karate for many years. Maybe I won't punch like the movies, but I can give a punch or two to make sure the other one will at least think I am better then I am at this.
Anyway, what I am trying to say is that you "never back down" to this kind of people or they will think they can walk all over your life. I kept saying this to my mom and one day she called me and said that my dad was being very nice for quite a while. I was happy to hear and asked why it was happening.
She then told me that she got so mad with him that my words were the only thing he could hear. She then pushed him on a sofa chair and it broke when he fell on it.
She told me that he was extremely surprised of her reaction, but he backed down big time. And I am not instigating violence here, I am just saying that if you see or hear him, do not show fear, and he will always think twice about being malicious against you.
2nd - Sorry to hear about the board issue. In my humble opinion, not everyone agree with each other and this is a public place. So, the one that do not agree can say just that and don't be stupid about.
We are here to get help and survive real and serious life problems, we are here to give help that we think is most appropriate based in our own knowledge and experience.
You have been a anchor for many here and I read so many thank you notes to you because you made a difference in their lives when they most needed. As very well mine.
For me, maybe because my wild heart, I would say you should just "don't give a damn", if the one that don't agree can't be polite and just say it, then they are not even worthy the time for us to get upset.
Would you get out of the board because of one or stay here because of many? It's up to you, but you can see that it is not right to give so much power to the ones that attack us.
You have your opinion about some stuff in life, you put your best effort to give other some advice, it's the other person's choice to keep the advice or ignore it. The beauty of this board is that it is shared with many different backgrounds, believes, levels of education and so on, so instead of one point of view, we are offered to look in many directions, many options, and make our own mind as we learn a lot from different perspectives.
So V, again I would say, stand for V... the ones for me are my dear friends, the ones against me can all go to hell. And that's it..just it. Love yourself for what you are. Not everyone will love you for that, but then it is their own loss.
I love you a lot, you gave me some 2 x 4s before and I learned a lot from many words you wrote to me. And yes, it was my own choice to accept your words and love you for that.
Don't bother yourself with stupidities, instead enrich yourself knowing that you are loved by some.
Your nightmare will pass V, all the good things are already coming your way, V is for Victory. All the wounds and pain will be register as your certificate of wise life.
Laugh today, be crazy, do some insane, be happy because you are you.
