So this could be a positive thing, if it is just the beginning of H "learning how to talk" and not his final thoughts on our situation. I am going to not react and wait and let it play out. I will watch my reactions extra carefully. I will use my knowledge of his awful perspective on me to help me detach. I do not want to be married to someone who thinks I am an abuser. Really, I don't.
From what you have posted, I think that it is as you thing - learning to talk, so to speak. I am not trying to pump sunshine, but I look at it this way - if he really was on his way out, why would he defend you?
Also, I don't think that he thinks you are an abuser. I say this because, to me, this is where perspective plays in. I could be an expert on that with the way my W is acting.
I say keep up what you are doing but temper the expectations. You got this!
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
