I am in house with my W and so long as we are nare t talking about the r lotions hip then we get along ...but what do I talk to her about
Yesterday I asked if we could have a chat about how things are going and it blew us in my face
All I want to do is try and make things better but she stone walls me and says this is as good as it gets
Talking does not help ...I just feel the less we talk the less she will want to do this in house cohabiting Ghost
Ghost, I did the same thing this weekend, had a "talk" with H and it turns out he believes I have borderline personality disorder and he is working on "recovering from 25 years of emotional abuse from me." Sound familiar? I am feeling like I was punched in the gut, and I know better than to initiate a conversation. I am so upset, mostly with myself because I knew better. I also can see for the first time since BD that maybe, just maybe, I really would be better off without him. Not- ok if he leaves me I will pull through and not let it destroy me- but actually, "this might really be the best thing in the long run." So maybe that is the positive thing that can come out of talking, maybe the awfulness of it all can help with detachment.
Sorry you are suffering Ghost. You are not alone. You are stronger than you think.
