Heather, He sees that you and the girls are moving on w/your lives and it's all good. He is now just realizing that he's no longer a part of that. He's wants to be in your lives. He doesn't realize that divorce means that you are now free to move on w/someone else.
So sad for him to just now realize what he had was the best part of his life and he tossed it away. Please, please do not allow him to reel you back into his drama. Stay the course and live your life to the fullest. Okay?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I'm treating the texts like he's a guy wanting a date. I've had a few recently-- which is nice-- just sayin :-) and, I'm not really interested in a relationship, so I'm polite. Respond back and drop it.
I find myself wanting the person he was and, for this round of his peeking out of the rabbit hole... I'm really not interested in the man he is today. I've got other stuff and people who trump what he has to offer.
So weird. How often I would have killed for him to show some interest in our lives. Today, I can think of nothing more awkward and uncomfortable than spending a holiday with him.
I'm kinda blown away by my own feelings. All that grief actually led somewhere better. Miss him. Miss the good stuff. Miss our family being one. But, that's separate that from the emaciated, zombie he is now.
Today, I'm looking at him from the perspective of a woman who has choices. He has very little to offer us today.
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
Mleigh, I don't post as much any more, but I keep up with your story. You amaze me. You are rocking this situation and treating your H with so much respect. Here's a big hug and an Atta Girll! Keep up the boundaries. I think they are serving you well. To have a child thrive in the midst of MLC is AMAZING.
The place I'm aiming for... To be this ok when he rejects me, or anyone rejects me. I'm good when validated and feeling confident.
I want to feel good in my skin even when the door is slammed In my face. Internal validation.
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
He called D21 several times in the past few days. She answered today. Called me in a whirl of emotion because... She said, "I feel guilty because I don't feel guilty."
He told her several times he missed us. Didn't apologize, but admitted to being lonely. She said, "Don't you have any friends?"
I guess he said, "Not many."
I don't know. D21 said she fought the urge to tell him how these are consequences and what did he expect?
I'm so proud of the changes she has made in her life. She has a 3.6 and is working!
Strong young woman.
I hurt for him. We have lost interest. He pushed it too far.
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
Matt: I think about you guys everyday also and continue to hurt. Trying to trust god not sure what he's trying to tell me though. Glad to hear your doing ok. I got complacent [censored] up and let everything that should of mattered to me go. Lost my best friend in the process.ugh
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
