Mleigh - it is so understandae to have those frustrations. You are right, their MLC impacts so many lives and it is painful to watch them morph into the very opposite of who they were. Suddenly, we are married to stangers.

And yes, many of us are struggling through the holiday this week. Your words are uplifting and compassionate! You are doing so well. Keep your chin up and keep up the good work!!

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced