STBXH's selfishness hasn't ceased to amaze me lately. I believe my eyes are truly open now and I am learning how to be stronger when dealing with him.

I just dropped off S4 at his parent's house (where he is living) exactly at the time I said I would and he was pissed that I wasn't there earlier because he was heading to his workout. He texted me late last night while I was sleeping "see you at 10:30/10:45?" After I had confirmed that I would be dropping him off at 11:00, our scheduled time. I responded that I had plans and would see him at 11:00. He never replied back.

Keep in mind that his parents live almost 30 minutes away so for the last 5 months we have arranged it so that whom ever drops off, the other picks up, and vice versa. So that one person isn't driving the distance twice.

Right before leaving I asked him what time would he be bringing him home? He looked at me with complete shock and said "I assumed you would be picking him up. With my new schedule I have to be at work at 3:00". I stated that I was not going to drive here twice in a couple of hours. He got so mad and spewed at me that "Fine, I will just go to my workout and then come home and pick him up and bring him back to you. I won't get any time with him". I said 'okay' and left.

I probably could have given in (I don't have plans until this evening) but I am tired of being the target of his anger for his choices. He knows which Saturdays he gets to spend with S4, for only a few hours. It is not on me that you are scheduling solo events for yourself and not actually spending the time with your son. He is lucky that I did not grab S4 and leave with him because I did not go through hell creating this parenting plan for the grandparents to watch our son.

If I need a 2x4 please give it to me. I think he is pissed that I am no longer bending over backwards to make his life easier and mine harder. It is time he starts to realize the consequences of this actions and start taking responsibility for his life. I don't have to do that anymore.

Last edited by ep0215; 11/21/15 05:24 PM.
Me:33 H:36
T:13 years
M:10 years
S4
Separated 05/15
H Filed 06/15