Wayward Wife, my addiction, advice needed

[trumpet]

Sandi,

Just to clarify - the OM is in Chicago, so she's hours away. They met up once in Chicago. My wife let me know that my contact of OM, leaving a message, and talking with his STBXW made a change in their D, which I was glad to see, as OM seems like a scumbag. I realized she had an addiction like me when she was defending him, getting mad at me for doing the right thing and exposing the EA.

My W does have a manager's training in Chicago in a couple weeks, and is staying overnight. My 'WARNING WILL ROBINSON WARNING' light and siren are going off right now, but I have no control - they could meet up, shag, and I'll be none the wiser. I will bring this up to our pastor, since having it out in the open might give her second thoughts. Her first encounter was a makeout session, and nothing more (yeah, I might believe this, but like you say, only believe half the truths she says).

I'm up to 26 minutes running on the treadmill - mind you, a couple 1 min. walks in-between, but I feel much better. Getting up to 80 sit-ups, and I think I'll be able to fit in some old pants soon. I continue to wear cologne, nice shirts when I'm home (no t-shirts, only when I work out).

I pulled my whole life policy and replaced it with term. Bought more term than I had whole life, and cashed out the whole life. She argued with me that it's half hers, but I told her the check will be made out to me, since it's my policy. Since her complaint, she's relented and just said 'not to blow it all'. I reminded her I'm the thrifty one in the family, and that it would be going into savings. I haven't changed the beneficiaries to the kids yet, as I'd have to have her sign a waiver, and I think that would put us back a few steps in MR.

Thanks, too, for the advice on the NC letter. It will be my main point in the session on Sunday. She's not ready to talk about what happened - she's still firmly in the fog.

Thanksgiving will be split - I'll pick up the kids halfway through the day at her parents and take them to my parents. I'll have plenty to be thankful for - just not the marriage yet.