Time to let go ....How (4)

[ATPeace]

One of the things I have come to realise is that we really do have no control over what happens as much as I hate this

I have started looking at it like this I was with my W for 25 years and married for 17

She decided that she wanted to finish things.....because I was not spending enough time with her during the evenings and she said I was not a great dad to the kids ...this is BS

Now the way I see it is if over the last 17 years I had spent every evening with her and did not give her space to breath and have her own time who is to say that we would not have seporated after 5 years of marriage or 10 years and she would have been saying to me I decided I wanted to separate because I was spending too much time with her and did not ever let her have freedom I was crowding her who knows

Who knows ....people make decisions for many reasons and they will find and make excuses like most people in our situation they talk in absolute negatives and remember everything as being bad just today my W made the decision to leave our toddler with our daughters boyfriend in our house whilst she took our older child out

So I said to her I thought this was unfair to him what if she needed the toilet or if there was a problem and she reminded me of a time 12 years ago when I had to go to a funeral and she had to work and had to leave one of our other children with a friend ...like this was 12 years ago

I just said to her that this is how it is now and I just have to get used to it that I do not get to decide how and who looks after my children and I if I do not like it then pretty much tough. Got to love her for this

Take care my friendsn

Ghost