Zephyr,

You have become my best cyber bud. I appreciate all the times you have written to me. Sometimes I wish we could chat off board, but here is good.

No you don't have to repeat yourself. I actually wanted to copy your post on doing nothing before I removed my threads...... done now.

Recent exchanges from W to friend, I have noticed at times my W really really pushes the line without breaking it. I am not talking about talking about issues but just short of insinuations. He to be fair has not jumped and more so goes quite at such times. But he is still there!

I hear your point about what is missing that W looks for. I believe I can just keep piling all I have into that void but until my W locks her side it will just pass through.

I need to think this out fully but I feel I am at the point you were recently and you exploded with a NC boundary. So I know you get me.

I may step back from here for a while. I will miss checking in on others and also gaining insights. But I have turned around this too long. I need to choose my path. I have not given up but I have had enough.

Thanks for being there.


R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together