Hi Anna, it sounds like you are coping well in truly difficult circumstances. From what your H says, it sounds as though he expects he will be late again at some point soon. What is your back up plan if that does happen? Is there flexibility with your work on arrival times?
Just a thought, but it may be an idea if your back up plan (something that you control and don't rely on him for) is a bit of a natural deterrent. For example - 'Oh, SIL/PIL have said I'm welcome to drop the kids round at theirs for an hour if you're running late" (Shows him in a poor light with his family...) or similar.
So, it sounds as though there may have been some adjustment with his living arrangements - perhaps involving OW? I know that must hurt, but from a sitch POV it may be no bad thing. I think the longest running sitches are those where an A has been able to remain in 'fantasy' stage for a while. Once they get to deal with dripping laundry, washing up, PMT, grocery shopping, childcare responsibilities, low funds together....the gloss tends to wear off.
You in the meantime will be in forwards motion - reflecting on things you want to work on for yourself, building your own confidence, enjoying the kids and so on.
Keep going Anna - it may not feel like it, but things are moving forward and the main focus needs to be you and the kids and keeping your head WRT your H.
Hope you have a good weekend my friend xx
Last edited by Sotto; 11/21/1507:59 AM.
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