Remember, that the surface is just that - the surface. I would be willing to bet that deep down there are a lot of issues that are eating away at her. Otherwise, why would she pursue a married man? Unless she was just total crap and wanted the unattainable, then something else was going on within her.
Yeah, I agree.
I mean, if you were an adult and a married person came on to you (which I'm thinking maybe my H did, after he worked out that she liked him), however much you might like that married person, as an adult you would tell them to step back, because you would realise that any relationship would never, ever be just about you and the other person. It would always be about you, the other person, and their spouse. So I'm thinking there's an pretty big element of immaturity there on her part? She is quite a lot younger than us...
Originally Posted By: Spiff69
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I'm also starting to think my H may also be a bit of a coward.
I have never thought of that to describe a cheater. But it really makes sense. I would bet that he is no different than the others, caught up in the attention and all that goes along with it. Is he one that likes to be pursued? But there is also something deeper going on with him, too.
Yeah, he likes the attention, and then eggs them on for more. I think that's been the common thread in all of his transgressions. From the slightly inappropriate boundary crossing of the first conversation he had with someone who clearly liked him (5 years ago now), to the EA and PA I reckon he's having now.
Thank you. I really value the amazing insight and advice on this forum. I've been reading a lot of threads lately.
