Obviously by being on here and reading DR I want to work on my marriage. I realize that the EA did not come out of thin air, that I contributed to it by not communicating with my wife in the way she needed. Even after I realized things were bad, I still wasn't going about it the right way. When I stumbled upon DR I came to the realization that this approach would benefit me whether or not my marriage survived. I needed to shake things up and get my wife's attention, but I also needed to shake myself into positive actions instead of negative inaction.
So my goals now are to be the best man, best parent, best person I can be. If that sparks my wife's interest, great. If not, I'll be OK. Because I'll have improved myself to the point where I no longer need validation from someone else.
In short, I control my destiny with my outlook on life. If I want to wallow in self-pity, I will be depressed. If, however, I consciously decide to improve myself every day I will thrive.
Me-38 W-38; T-15 M-12; S10 and S6 BD - July 2016; EA confirmed; confronted Aug 2015 EA dissolved 12/2016
Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option - Maya Angelou
