O, another interesting thought, in the few months leading up to BD one of H's good friend's W filed for D. My H was a big part of his support system, multiple calls/texts per day. I think oftentimes people going through a D influence the people around them.
I strongly second this. My W's sister started her divorce stuff a few months before my W's BD. And they are closer than close. I have no doubt there is influencing going on...
That leads me to this question - how does one, if they can, overcome this?
Spiff, what a great question. I never thought of that before, but now that I think about it, I think it would be wise to go to a marriage-friendly therapist for a "checkup" if you notice that your spouse is spending a lot of time and energy with a divorcing friend or relative. Probably would be wise to go for a "check up" every year or so anyway, but who would think to do that? Unfortunately we don't notice problems until they are really out of control.
