Man was that a tough lesson to learn. I kept putting my hand on the hot stove. Over and over and . . .
Right there with you, 2point0. That one took me a long time to learn and I burnt my hand too many times before I learned to pull it back!
At the height of it all I had so much stuff that I screenshot and saved I could have used it to wreck her career, even though it was an EA and if I was of the vindictive sort. I kept it all hidden because, in my mind, if she got crazy with the kids or something I would use it as a bargaining chip. And before anyone asks, even though what I found was just an EA, the info I had was enough to totally wreck her. Totally. But I realized something along the way, what good was it all? Why keep it? I realized that by keeping it, I was holding on to that anger and it was not allowing me to move past it. I have forgiven her for that - both to her face and in my heart. And, just as importantly, I have forgiven myself for my behavior. That one was tough.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.