O, I am probably too late, but if you want to be there for swim lessons then stay. If you need the "break" then don't. I would try not to worry about what is going on in her mind. Certain kids activities I love going to and others are a chore. So you decide. Try not to worry about what is going on in W's head, just do what you want. And if you do stay for swimming, and she sees you there, focus on your kids and having fun with them, try not to be looking at her from across the pool with puppy dog eyes. You are there for your kids, and for yourself. Not her.
As far as Thanksgiving goes, I would not invite her. She moved out. She is the one that is "breaking up the family"- so let her feel what that feels like. Enjoy your Thanksgiving, enjoy your mom, be surrounded by the people who want to be with you and have no doubt in their love for you.
Sometimes I feel like I am journaling here too. And then other times I get so much feedback that I can't keep up with it, and have to go back a day or two later and process it. Its all ok. Keep posting.
What are you doing today? Is there a GAL activity- big or small- something you can do today that will help you? Something that can get you "out of your own head" about this? Give yourself a chance today to just be O, even just for a few minutes.
Thanks Pho. I agree with every hung you said. I responded to Azz and explained how everything went down.
My GAL is pretty decent. My job let's me think to much though and bedtime is really awful!
I have been keeping up with you as well. It's funny. I wish I had more to tell people but I feel the more I learn is from experiences that aren't what we want! Lol.
M 37 W 34
T 12 M 8 D 7 S 4
Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15
