Thank you for your reply. I will read up on your situation.Mibe is under "WAS or what".

Doing nothing is a concept I picked up here. As long as no boundaries are passed you do nothing directly.It is out of our control.

I am not in denial and yes anything I know is from snooping. This snooping is also what makes me sure that it is just chatting and friends stuff. It is a fine line between friendship and EA. I have no proof of EA, just my reading between the lines.

My controlling point was that I was taking the action so later I would be seen in a better light as the H who made a stand and W made her choice. This is not a good reason to act.

Thanks again for dropping by. What would you do?


R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together