Thank you for your reply. I will read up on your situation.Mibe is under "WAS or what".
Doing nothing is a concept I picked up here. As long as no boundaries are passed you do nothing directly.It is out of our control.
I am not in denial and yes anything I know is from snooping. This snooping is also what makes me sure that it is just chatting and friends stuff. It is a fine line between friendship and EA. I have no proof of EA, just my reading between the lines.
My controlling point was that I was taking the action so later I would be seen in a better light as the H who made a stand and W made her choice. This is not a good reason to act.
Thanks again for dropping by. What would you do?
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together