Hi Scrant, I would really give this kissing and hugging some thought. For me, it was an absolute boundary that if H was with an OP (which he was) we would not have any sort of romantic R. He did not get to be romantic with me while sleeping with someone else. He wanted to be and told me and I told him that wasn't going to happen. It was a simple equation for me - R w OW = No R w me.

It sounds as though your W does get to be romantic with you while she is sleeping with someone else. Why not enforce a healthy boundary for yourself? Kissing and hugging is not going to help you detach and it is not going to 'love' her back into the M if she is with OM.

I think if you apply the 'would I do this with a friend?' rule on the kissing and hugging, you can't go too far wrong.

smile

Last edited by Sotto; 11/20/15 08:13 AM.
T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

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