Hi OTW, I think you're right that it is your issue and you aren't detached enough and are wanting to rush things. Your post is almost all about your W. I haven't read back, but are you building a full life for yourself separate to your W. Do you have plenty of GAL going on?

Believe me, your W will tell you if she wants back in and the most likely thing to lead to that will be her very real fear of the loss of you...

I would really try and shift your focus from 'looking for movement in your sitch....is it time yet...do you think she is....'

Accept what is for now - don't look to move anything forward. Don't be the initiator in respect of 'us' - look only after your own side of the street and move strongly forward with your own stuff....that is the way I think.

Take care x

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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus