I understand your hesitation to do something legal, I really do. But think of it this way: If you don't, you are 1) not looking out for the children, 2) enabling him to spend his money on himself and potentially OW instead, and 3) holding on to him by a false sense of connection.

And he is not going to respect or love you any more for it. I promise.

Consult with a L, if you have been deserted, you can get help through various organizations. You could contact a women's shelter and see which lawyers they normally work with, even if you're not homeless.


M 16 yrs, WH62, P54
3 adult blended kids
EA 11/13, BD1 6/14
PA fall 14, BD2 2/15
Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15
Separated 4/16
WH moved OW in 5/16
Divorced 6/15/17