Yes I will tell him. I don't have much time to even do so. I feel bad that I did not tell him first. It was something that I just did, because I had been delaying for so long. Almost like jumping in a pool of cold water. Any advice on how or what to say? My mother said, just be direct and unapologetic like he is to me. "I asked you for it before, and I have to think about me"
Vanilla said it correctly. I do have boundaries, but I tolerate a lot and I just can't assert myself and then end up taking the flight response.
I do feel guilty because he was paying for things when I asked, (maybe out of guilt, maybe he still cares, or because I think he was afraid I would do something like this)
Also, now there is no chance of reconcilation. Although he already told me there was none anyhow. And now we have to start the court proceedings and it's because of me.
Me: 42 H: 43 Twins age 5 Physically Separated 7/2015
