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[vise82]

Hey Mutatio,

Yes that is why I am wearing it. But it does get harder to wear it. I feel like a fool. Like I am living a lie. The ring has lost its full meaning, and represent half of the original commitment.

Hey OhGreat,

That is a good point, I have stood up to this disrespectful behaviour in the past as I am DBing. I didn't tolerate her drinking wine in his house alone, that has stopped. I told her I didn't tolerate her talking to her ex and friending him on Facebook. That stopped, she unfriended him.

But at this point she is going to a party. Cant really say anything about that. the problems will start if she start talking to OM openly. The only thing I can do is stop paying for half of the car she uses or something like that.

Tonight she gave me the list of bills that I am to pay for. I go over it and she accuses me of accusing her of stealing, her same old concerns. This time I see she is using the joint account for her personal purchases. I ask her about it and she says she is using it as her bank account because her pay checks are getting held in her new account for days until she can use the money. I said she needs to plan for that. I asked her to stop buying her stuff with the joint account.

She brings up that I started all this when I opened up my account and stopped depositing my pay into the joint account.

She is stealing money because child benefit money is in the joint account, we agreed that we were going to let that money grow for the kids bills in the joint account.

She is blurring the lines of joint money and her money. I asked her to stop and to use her account. She says I don't trust her. I don't. Didn't tell her that though.