Thank you for posting on my thread. Isn't it funny, how when we are reading other people's situations we think completely different then when it is our own? Especially when the situations are similar. When I read yours I think, that SOB needs to pay CS. But in my case, I think differently. But why?
Please read my earlier threads. The links aren't there but you can find them by clicking on my name. I struggled with requesting CS for months. My husband told me he couldn't afford it even though he earns over 3 figures and has no expenses. He ended up taking a mysterious vacation and delayed paying for a new car seat.
I know I'm right but for some reason I'm sick over it, so I totally understand your apprehension. Sometimes it helps to hear it over and over and over and by telling you, I am actually telling myself this...
1. This is for your children. You need to be a lioness and make sure they get everything they are entitled to. Because if you don't, no one else will. Any extra can be used for their college or safety fund as opposed to God knows what your husband will be spending it on.
2. Your husband made a commitment to marry you and bring children into this world. Ok, he doesn't want to be married anymore. But luckily we have laws that ensure that he continues to support those children he elected to have.
3. RAlice is right. I was nice for 5 months after husband left and it did not change husband. He was committed to leaving before he left. I think They have to hit rock bottom first. Right now they are living it up. Think of how easy it is to have no responsibilitities and full income. Why would they return? (Whether you will even want them back at that point is another story) they need to know the real consequences early on. DONT ENABLE THEIR BEHAVIOR. It will not get easier with time. I wish I did it the moment he left, cause he would have seen what it really is like to be divorced instead of living a wonderful life of bachelorhood.
Me: 42 H: 43 Twins age 5 Physically Separated 7/2015
