I don't post much here anymore - but I was browsing today and your post caught my eye, because I also have two daughters and lost a parent as well this summer. I'm sorry about your mother - I'm sure it made an already awful situation so much more painful.
Originally Posted By: Kinder
I have not consulted with a lawyer because I do not want to get divorced. I have my head firmly planted in the sand I know.
The number came about because that is what he can afford to give me now. Being the pushover I am, I thanked him for it and let it go.
Kinder - you can't "nice" him back. I've read a lot of threads here in the last year - and I haven't see that happen yet. Please consult a lawyer and protect yourself. Depending on what state you live in and what the laws are about when you are separated - you could be responsible for any debt he is running up right now. If he can't afford to pay you a reasonable amount of child support - then he can't afford to be supporting a separate establishment with the OW. You aren't doing any of you any favors by shielding him from this reality. The man is creating new responsibilities while neglecting the old and what in his behavior the last few months would lead you to believe you can trust him to do the right thing?
Originally Posted By: Kinder
I know I shouldn't care about any of this but I do - alot. This has to run its course right? It has nothing to do with me right? Work on only me and my girls, right?
Kinder - it may run its course, it may not and it may not end the way you would like it to right now. It's fine to hope and stay positive - but that doesn't mean that you can't take care of business. Protect yourself and your daughters.
And before I forget - do yourself a favor and cease any contact with the OW.
