Thanksgiving dinner as a family sounds very positive! If you get her tipsy, maybe hide her keys so she can't leave. LOL- DB'ers turned into stalkers. Keep those expectations low As, but it does seem like she is thawing. Don't seem too eager, the rules still apply!
As far as S, I am glad to hear that even the mighty grounded Asitis loses it. I lose it far too frequently and I am not proud, but we are all human. I truly believe that my D's issus are what "did us in" - not that we were all that strong to start with, but parenting a special needs child is very tough on a marriage.
Also wanted to tell you that I still take your advice with my son, actually with both of them even though only one has anxiety issues, that I make it a point to get down on the floor and play with him at his level. Also I alternate that with music "jams" - my sons play the guitar and piano and I will sing or dance along and just "rock out" - the physical play definitely helps everyone's mood and makes us feel connected. H is very slowly engaging in it as well. Sometimes it is hard to remember to make the time- between homework and dinner and bedtime, etc, but even just 10-15 minutes makes a huge difference. A lot of the things you have shared with me have helped, but that is one thing in particular that stands out. Thank you.... and take your own advice, when things get difficult with your s that is the time to chase or wrestle.
