As a side note, before I found this board I cannot tell you the last time I had a meaningful and personal conversation with a man. Including my H, which is sad. Is that strange? I talk to my friend's husbands, my brothers, my cousins, my son's teachers and the Dads at the school, but never anything personal. I am guessing that is a good thing, because that would be the way an emotional affair starts. But it is really, really nice to have the male perspective and to have guy "friends." Thank you for that.
First, no need to thank us for that. We are all in this ship together. I must add that without your words I just don't know.
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My approach since BD has been to keep my mouth shut, to not involve H in any conflict between me and the IL's and to just let everything slide. It has been working for me, but he is still hearing it from their side. What he really needs to do is remove himself from the equation and let each person handle their own issues.
Something is not quite right with him depending so much on his family. Until he cuts those strings, then I am afraid it won't change, but I may be wrong. Seems like I have been wrong a lot lately.
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I am thinking, instead of feeling hopeless (which I do right now) that there are things H can provide for me that will save the M if he chooses to.....
Interesting and reasonable thought. However, the question is how does that happen? How do you get him to do that without pushing him over the wall, so to speak?
Your thinking is spot on, Pho!
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
