Thanks so much ladies! I don't see myself that way, but it's nice if someone feels even a bit inspired by me.
So, it looks as though we may have someone interested in the house. H emailed me last night to say they viewed it and loved it and may consider an offer. However, I've not heard any more today, so presumably no offer has been made yet.
H also said he was so sorry for missing my B'day and he hoped I had a good one. That's a baby step forward from last year where he missed it and never apologised. Is that progress?? Maybe next year, he'll remember it...just belatedly...
Incidentally, I took a step which I found helpful recently. H communicates with me using email mostly. I decided to take email off my iphone, so I'm not instantly available via that channel. It's been quite freeing to know that he only reaches me when I choose to check my mail. Of course he knows none of this and of course he could text, but he tends to use email. Just sharing in case this helps anyone.
Anyway, we'll see what happens with the house....
Another nugget from my workshop this week - communicate with your ex-spouse as though there are 'truce' conditions, rather than 'war.' I look at our communications and we certainly achieve that. I notice that H lapses in and out of my normal name and his pet name for me. Lately, it has been more pet name. I reverted a while back to his normal name and I've never changed from that. He used to be my (pet name) and I don't see him as mine anymore, so the pet name felt wrong.
Anyway - hope everyone has had a good day xx
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T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
Maybe next year, he'll remember it...just belatedly...