Getting through the storm

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I am completely and utterly confused, angry, sad, etc. Today has not been a good day since 6:00 am when I saw I had received a TM from H late last night while I was sleeping and then it went downhill from there. I thought we had a good conversation last night about his confusion over the house issue but I guess he is still confused. He sent me a long text outlining that my L told his L that we would be agreeable to considering if he wants the house. He took that as I no longer want the house and my L is not saying the same thing as me.

Me: I think the misunderstanding is that I am agreeable to discussing other options. It is not a deal breaker for me but I would prefer the house (hence my offer). My L and I are on the same page, if you want to talk about it before your 10:00 am meeting with your L we can do that.

H: It seems this is being dragged out longer on purpose. I’m not going back and forth anymore.

Me: What does that mean?

H: Exactly what it says. What’s the point in going back and forth when your demands are so outrageous?
(basically I am asking for alimony)

I didn’t reply

H: I guess you agree then. My meeting is at 10

Me: I think differently but I understand why you see it that way

H: So you agree in the fact that there is no point in going back and forth anymore?

Me: No I do not agree. We haven’t gone back and forth, I haven’t received your counter offer

I stopped responding after that since I was talking to my L on the phone but read him the blasts of text that came in while we were on the phone.

He said he submitted an offer two weeks ago but that was a letter saying no to all my requests and that the collaborative process has run its course, remember? Not a counter offer.

H: You responded saying you were agreeable to me taking the house if I can assume the mortgage. Now you are telling me that’s not what you said?
H: That’s the email stated from your L

H: This is exactly what I am talking about why I feel like this is being dragged out

H: This is going to end very badly financially for both of us

H: You can’t ask for something that is not even there and then ask for a counter offer

H: My meeting is at 10

H: Something has to change very soon

I have not responded to any of this. My L stated he would call his L and tell him to stop bullying me, it is not helping. He called me back and said that they did not have a meeting today. WTF?? We ended up having to schedule a meeting with Dr. C since she is really good at helping with the high emotions. My L reassured me that I have not done anything to drag this out. I have submitted everything that has been asked of me in a timely and efficient manner. I just don’t know how to deal with this. I have continued to stay calm when talking to him. I validate when I can but it doesn’t seem to do anything. UGH!