In the UK - need help (pt15)

[Painter]

I'm glad you're feeling strong and empowered! Your W sounds like things are not going the way she thought and she's now trying to blame you for the mess she created.

When H had his A, he had a plan that I was just going to move far away with only my personal belongings, and he would take on all our debts but also keep every asset. I would just have to start over (I'm 50+ and moved to this country to marry him, gave up my career and took care of stepchildren and ageing in-laws).

When he realized that I went to see a L and got a very different version of the future (fortunately, we live in a state that still thinks breaking your M vows should have consequences), he acted as if I was SO selfish! That HE would have to move out, how was he going to do that, couldn't afford it, he would be ruined! Reality check hit him right between the eyes...

I just told him, that's the way it works.

Are you getting a place for you and the kids? Why does she think she's taking them?