Wayward Wife, my addiction, advice needed

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My update for the last 24 hours...

I had a great session with the therapist on Wed. Setting personal goals for myself, and learning how I have used passive aggressive and anger to express emotions, instead of directly communicating that to those I care about. One of my goals is to have healthy communication with my wife, who has the same issues, including heavy use of sarcasm, which is another poor way to communicate.

Still working out every morning, up with the kids at 5AM-6AM, getting lunches ready, kissing the kiddos, giving them a hug before they get on the bus.

Our meeting with the pastor/MC on Friday is on my mind. Still trying to decide if I should 'prepare' and have things written down or just to wing it.

Wife made a strange comment - she's noticed I haven't slept in the bed for 4 days - and made me know that she's counting. Considering the perverbial house is burning down, and she's complaining about the knick-knacks not being dusted, I just had to laugh to myself. She has said NOTHING to let me know she cares about me or loves me, no physical touch of any kind for a month, and complains that I'm not in the bed when she is. Mind you, when we're in the bed, she says nothing, makes no conversation, and makes no movement towards me.

I still think I need to set the boundary that absolutely no contact with OM, no Facebook 'friends', no secret texts, and the letter that is sent by me to the OM that states explicitly the NC. The wife still doesn't seem to know the gravity of the situation.